Some may remember that I've ranted about my mother on here before. She can be very controlling, hurtful etc and it frequently drives me up the wall.
Anyway this weekend DS has been invited to the birthday party of a little girl from his preschool. The party is in the function room of some pub that isn't that close to where we live, but is reachable by buss so no issue really. So when I told my mum about him having been invited to this party she asked if we'd want a lift. I said probably not and she was a bit quiet but didn't say anything. Then last night she rang to ask what was happening and whether or not we'd want a lift there. I said no, that my dh had looked at the buss times etc and it was perfectly pheasible to go there by buss, so thanks for offer but no. She became very defensive and said "oh well please yourself then!" I said that there was no need to be like that and she just said "well if that's how you want to be!" I left it at that.
What just really annoys me is that she's so resentful! It's as if she expects us to rely on her, and when we don't she becomes very defensive and agressive. Firstly I feel that it's not a good idea to rely on people for everything as one day she won't be there and if I'd relied on her then I'd be at a loss, secondly I'm very independent and don't feel the need to rely on other people, and thirdly I really don't want my ds to grow up thinking that we can't go anywhere unless nanny takes us there.
I absolutely appreciate that there are times when my parents have been great and have taken me places etc just like most parents would. My dad is totally different he'll say "oh give us a shout if you need a lift" but doesn't force the issue - why can't my mum be like that?