Meeting the boyfriend for the first time- help me be grown up about it

[Primadonnagirl]

I'm meeting DSD s boyfriend for first time and I'm nervous! She's a v private person so he must be special for her to introduce us to him and that's lovely and I'm happy for her.But I'm dreading it! Think it's a combination of
awkwardness ..shy in social situations ..sadness that I'm old enough now to be in this situation..jealous...prepared to be embarrassed by Dh who, bless him, always goes OTT trying to be cool dad, ..and finally unsure of my role as step mum.
All advice gratefully received!

Treat him like you would any other friend of hers. Like it's no big deal. Suggest your DSD makes the drinks or whatever and just go with the flow. The more formal you make this meeting, the more nervous you'll all be. If he's too shy to speak, don't press it.

My dd1's boyfriend rarely spoke when he came around, which made him seem a little aloof. This all ended when he fell over the gate on the kitchen doorway and laid, flat on his back blushing and laughing. It was hard for him to be shy after that. Now he'll happily banter with the rest.

It'll probably be fine

Oh bless when my dd brought her boyfriend home he was far too nervous and embarrassed to say much other than blush every time someone spoke to him, quite common I think. But with ds1 clambering all over him he couldn't stay aloof for long and now just joins in.
My advice would be to keep it as relaxed and informal as possible take the lead from them.

Thanks ! I know I'm over thinking this but I feel I shouldn't be as worked up as I am! I also think I'm a bit alone in this as I'm quit a bit younger than DH so my friends have younger kids so aren't at this stage...and his friends kids are older!!!

Boyfriends are like spiders: They''re much more frightened of you than you are of them.

Love that Jeremiad might whisper it to DH at some point!