My DH has been getting more and more distant from me in the past few months. He has never been a big communicator but this is over and above how he normally is. Thing is its just me he wont really talk to, he has stayed up for hours chatting to a friend who is having problems with her family and has just split up from her partner and even slept on the sofa instead of coming to bed. This particular friend is a friend of us both and i know nothing is going on as she is gay and i trust them both but certain things he has shared with her he has not bothered talking to me about and as his wife they are things you would expect to be shared with a partner. Also he told her something (i saw over his shoulder when saying goodnight) that he told me something completely different. I mentioned it to him but he just brushed it off as no big deal despite me saying it hurt me. He now doesn't even give me the cursory shout if he is off to do something just disappears without a word and i have to hunt him down. It may not sound like much but its something we have always done you know, a "i'm just going for a bath" or "i'm not feeling to good i'm just going to lie down" I feel very lonely and like i don't even really know him anymore. We chat about superficial stuff but if i try to talk about anything deeper he just ignores me or completely disengages as soon as possible.