How to disengage from this man? Going around in circles.

[IchBinNerd]

I've gone no contact but still have to see him in person 5 days out of 7 and I'm stuck in a continuos loop of disengaging and reengaging.

Background: very brief fling during a really bad time, no sex but some kissing, he got bored or scared or something else, he didn't actually tell me and when I finally figured it out I went no contact and got over it.

During the 6 months or so of no contact he'd continue being flirty and smiley with some lingering touches thrown in when we saw each other. This behaviour was obvious to all around us and it was often commented on.

The past 2 months I managed to disengage completely, I'm pretty sure he just wants some attention and an ego stroke and I'm not willing to waste my time on him BUT here we are again back at square one.

He clearly doesn't want more than an ego stroke, I don't want a relationship with him, so why does this keep happening? Why won't he fuck off with his cute little smiles and sneaky glances or why can't I ignore it for more than a month at a time?

I think I know him! Or at least there is a member of the species in every town. You make each other feel good, it should be good, but there is an emptiness created by the fact that he just wants to use you as an ego boost and you probably want a proper relationship of some sorts. So you probably aren't getting enough out of it to make it worthwhile for you. Whats in it for you?

The man I knew led me to believe he was a much nicer person than he actually is, and very shy to boot. I went off him when I heard he had shagged a really skanky woman off an internet dating site and was messing around with many others. The carefully constructed image was ruined, and I saw him for what he really was.

I was involved with one of these as well, it went on for a while. He acted like he wanted a relationship with me as I did with him but refused to accept we were in one and I found out he was leading a double life and had at least one other 'mate' who knew nothing about me and me nothing about her.

This was enough for me to end it and I've kept away ever since. It's hard but you have to see these players for what they are to disengage.

I have a rather large mental list detailing exactly why he shouldn't be entering my head at all. He's odd and awkward and good looking in a way I can't put my finger on.

I know I don't want a relationship with him, he is a walking red flag. It's a sex thing... I have to see him day in day out for years, knew i should have stayed well away!

without giving too much away, roughly which part of the country does he live in?

South!