I am pretty much sure my marriage is dead in the water. DH has been physically and emotionally abusive. I have given it 12 months since his last assault but it us clear that I am no longer invested or have any respect for our marriage. I can see its a charade, I am not happy and emotionally I just feel angry and distant from dh.
The problem us that even though emotionally I have broken the link and know my marriage is over I am struck by inertia about actually physically dismantling my family. I am partly held back by changing the dc's living arrangements which is strange as I know they are not happy living with 2 adults who obviously dislike each other. Our house is on the market so I tell myself once it has sold we'll split the capital and run but I also know logically it makes little sense. I could go now and rent and await the sale. Has anyone else had experience of this? Dh has picked up on my unhappiness but I'm not sure he fully comprehends that in my head our marriage is finished. Partly this because he does not fundamentally trust or respect my point of view but I probably haven't fully disclosed the extent of my shut down. Its a mess.