Hi all would really appreciate some practical tips on how to control my anger with my OH. I am planning to leave but don't want to until middle DC has finished A levels next June (house has a tie in mortgage til Feb anyway). The anger in me is like a raw rage but is not healthy for the kids or conducive to a calm home.
Background is OH had an emotional affair with his PA that I found out about 2.5 years ago. He was an arse after and I regret not dumping him then. Since then she still works for him...they sat next to each other until 2 weeks ago..she talks to him like shit, (heard them on conference) but he simpers ....he recently gave her a huge pay rise, has set her on a new career path which means she will continue to report to him for part of her job even tho she has a new boss..I set ground rules, no contact out of work hours, no drinks etc that have over time on occasions been ignored. He is thick and she is predatory
I realise all the incidents are small but numerous and hurtful, over our summer holidays she contacted him to see if he wanted her to buy his office Christmas party ticket! This weekend she 'accidentally' called him from her handbag then text immediately wtf. Strange coincide is that her bf seems to have just dumped her hhhmmmm. In addition my OH has zero emotional intelligence, is cold, will not communicate and thinks its my job to make him a better person pah! So in summary I have had enough of being a bystander of their flirtatious ridiculousness and I finally want to LTB
I am planning this I have started to lose weight, going to gym and yoga, eating healthily, stopped boozing .....but the rage and hatred towards him is growing.....I have never hated anyone this much and it's a little scary when I turn into one of those metal rock like screamers!!!! He won't accept it's over but that's not my issue. If I calm down he will probably think all is forgiven which may suit me better when I land the final blow next year (Evil cackle)
I realise I sound calculated but I really do want to let go of this anger and move on emotionally and mentally asap