Future in-law meets my mum!

[SarahGoodwin33]

Bit nervous about this. Most people are nervous about parents meeting in case one tells embarrassing stories about when we were young. My reasons for being nervous are because any story about me pre 35 would be based on me being a man! (I am transsexual living as a woman for nearly 3 years).
Ok so my future in law knows my past but it doesn't make it any more awkward. Added to that my mum has pics up which I totally accept as that is part of her memories of me albeit I am someone else now and ispmside always have been!

Would it be possible for you to talk to your mum about your fears before the visit?

I agree that you should talk to your mum too.

She might well be nervous - wanting to support you, and also make a good impression of herself.

I remember the day my parents met my in-laws for the first time 12 years ago. I had primed my parents to be aware at what dreadful snobs in-laws are... and I'm glad I did!

Hope it all goes well for you :) Have a or a first and relax

Yes you are right, I will sit down and have a heart to heart with my mum

what about meeting somewhere neutral like a restaurant or pub? I did this.

Think liquid is right neutral meeting place would get rid of some issues at least plus having a chat with your mum should help.

This is always a scary situation, but it often goes more smoothly than you anticipated! Dont worry they will all be on best behaviours!

So don't introduce them if you can't cope. I don't mean to sound heartless, but every time I read a message from you, you seem to be getting some kind of attention-seeking thrill about the many real or imagined problems your new status throws up. If you make a big, life-changing, controversial decisions you have to accept that a) others are never going to be fully along for the ride and b) there are going to be awkward moments as a result. For 35 years you were a man and I think you're delusional if you're seriously expecting your mother (or anyone else for that matter) to erase all that history. You either stick on your brazen face and deal with it or you withdraw from society.

Does your mum support your change?