This is bullshit, isn't it?

[MummyBeerest]

My mother and I just don't get along. I have posted on here about my issues with her before.

DH, DD and I are in the process of moving. We've outgrown our tiny house, and we need to be closerto DP's job so we can save on gas money and DP can see DD for more than 2 hrs a day during the week.

It's about an hour away from where we are now. I should note that my mother will not come to visit us because she hates our neighbourhood. However, she does not want us to move to another city either.

Finally I got fed up with all of the passive aggressive digs about us moving, so I finally asked her why she was so adamantly against us moving given her knowledge of our situation.

She finally tells me that she fears she may lose her job in the near future, and she'd have to sell her house. And she always figured that, should this happen, she and my sister (who lives and works with her,) would move in with us! And she doesn't want to leave the area she lives in, so she'd prefer it if we stayed here should thise circumstance arise.

Oh...and rent-free obviously, as she won't be working!

Am I being a selfish daughter, or is this, in fact, bullshit?

She doesn't come and visit you? Then its much easier- only go there with your dh, who must be prepared to stand his ground. Only go for a couple if hours and then be busy.

If she talks about it, just say its all going ahead. If she goes on about moving in with you just laugh and say " we aren't moving to a mansion! There isn't even a spare room!" And then change the subject. If she won't talk about anything else, look at your watch and say " omg, we will be late, come on dd"

On the phone you can be much braver. " dm, I told you we are moving! And no, you and dsis can't move in with us, there's no space! Blimey, we might have to emigrate at this rate" or something.

Is her job even at risk? I reckon NOT!

That's the hilarious part Lavender-she doesn't come and visit us, hardly ever calls, just the occasional text.
It's when we visit her that this even comes up. My DD sees the ladies at our local bakery more than her grandmother.

Hissy-eh, possibly. Her company has been struggling.
She should have been looking for a new job years ago but-shock and awe-she hates change.