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fed up of always being expected to tow the line with extended family

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Owllady · 16/09/2013 10:40

and that's it really
I have no family support at all, to work or socialise or anything else, never have done, quite used to it
happily married with 3 children, eldest severely disabled with health problems too

extended family are just vile to me about everything, my weight, how I look after the children, how I don't work, everything.

MIL isn't speaking to me because she doesn't think I look after my dd well enough

Mum has pissed me off because she suggests going out for my birthday, i suggest something, she says oh yes great and then SHE MAKES IT ALL ABOUT HER, when she can make it, when she cannot, what SHE wants to do

I honestly feel like telling them all to just piss off and don't ring me again

I have been estranged from my own father for well over a decade because hmm, he didn't like what i had become either. I have friends, they all seem to be confused by my family and their behaviour. i seem the shut up and put up, but just lately I am getting a bit sick of the towing the line. i suppose my birthday is a catalyst to feeling like this, because most people I know do what they want to do on their birthday and in my mid 30s, I can't remember ever doing what I wanted to do

am i spoilt little child, or would you feel the same? i feel a bit silly posting this but if I speak to my dh he just say s'oh well you know what they are like, take no notice' Confused

OP posts:
AllThatGlistens · 16/09/2013 12:08

Sounds to me as though you've finally reached your boiling point.

You don't have to maintain high levels of contact with people who make your life a misery. It isn't a law, and it isn't enforceable!

What you do have to do is look after yourself, and your DC, in whichever way works best for you.

If that means distancing yourself a bit (or a lot) that's your right.

Put yourself, and your DC's needs before anyone else Flowers

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