did you stay friends with an ex after a bad relationship/break up?

[villageperson]

Just this question really- did you, why did you and what happened? My friends' toxic ex is still in her life just intermittently through email but she still finds even after all these years that the emails confuse and derail her- why do people do it? Can there ever be a happy ending to this?

Yes. He is the father of my children. I still love him, but i know i cant be with him

Yes for the same reason as Boomba - because I made a decision that being civilised was best for our child.

It wasn't easy though.

I have an amicable relationship with XH but wouldn't say we were friendly exactly (I think he might though).

I broke up very badly with my first husband. Courts, solicitors, the works. We couldn't be in the same room. We split when the dc's were 4 and 2. Twelve horrible years followed, I remarried, so did he, hostilities continued. And then something major bad happened in his life. Somehow we actually had conversations. It's been 16 years since we were married, now we rub along quite well. He came to my birthday bash last year, and I saw in the new year with him and his new partner. It's been a long road, but worth it eventually.

nope,not even close.Its been horrible.We have been divorced 11 years and still have zero contact,I tried cos we have 3 kids together but he continued being abusive so I stopped ( last time I called him about something to do with the kids he called me a cunt and hung up as soon as I told him who I was and before I had a chance to talk to him )
So far he has dragged me back into court ( at great expense to both of us ) 3 times and lost 3 times,it doesnt help the situation im a money hungry greedy cunt

Yes, and it's very painful

I don't know why I do it, I think simply because I have hardly ny friends and get so lonely, and sick of being stuck in all the time, and it's someone to meet for a drink etc

Oh, god, I'm so pathetic, reading back what I wrote

Oh sugarmouse