Ex problems

[mummytasha11]

Hi everyone

Me and ex dp split in march, due to get married in August. He decided he didn't want to anyone after I had chose my wedding dress booked everything,etc. no real reason given at the time just that he wanted to be single and enjoy his money blah blah. We have a 2.5 year old ds as well who was planned.
Since we split we have been back and forth (slept together a few times - big mistakes) and he has said he wants me back will do whatever it takes all the rest of it.
We still talk most days - he will contact about ds and then we talk and it just feels like we are together but he is working away - which he did anyway.

After we split I also found out he cheated on me whilst I was pregnant with our son and also he told me he had signed up to pof at Christmas.

Anyway

Yesterday he put on Facebook that he was somewhere with a girl that I have never heard of before.

I only know this because my sister still has him on fbook and she told me. He was talking to me sending me songs through the week...and at the same time he's obviously seeing someone so why bother talking to me??

I felt a mixture of anger and upset today....why is he doing this?

Sorry for the long post

We were together 8 years.

I agree with above. He gets to still have fun times with you while being single which is what he always wanted. You need to keep your relationship amicable only, and whenever you feel tempted to go get close think of how you felt when he called off the wedding. For him to do that shows he doesn't want to be with you so don't let him,

Thank you for your replys. He has text this morning asking how we both are? Why does he think its acceptable to be texting me and seeing someone new?

Because hes a pathetic narcisist who probably sees women as things to enjoy rather than other people whos thoughts and feelings are as important as his. This guy cant offer you any kind of future, take his money (for your son) and move on. You know its what is going to happen in the end anyway, he will not change.

He's texting you because he gets a kick out of thinking he's irresistible to you all and believing he has a harem who will fall at his feet at the snap of his fingers.
Set up an email to discuss contact and finances and use that to communicate if the texting feels too personal and ignore all other correspondence from him.

It sounds like he's keeping his options open (aka having his cake and eating it). He might prefer you to the others, maybe, but he sure as hell isn't prioritising you and making total efforts to show that you are his ultimate choice and will (to quote Shakespeare) 'give and hazard all he has' in the hope he can persuade you he is worth it.

I suggest you minimise contact (perhaps email only) to admin about your DS. Carrying on with contact, round long-distant work commitments, that is much as it was before the split is keeping you stuck in the same old patterns. That's unlikely to help you decide what you really want in your future.