Would you contact old flame????????????????

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To cut a long story short, I have just tracked down an old flame from my college days, he wasn't my first love probably my 5th, but out of all my old flames I hold a soft spot for him in my heart.
I am happy with dp but cannot stop thinking of this guy.
Should I contact him? I really want to but would like to know of any mumsnetters opinions, of if any of you have done something like this before and how did it turn out.
Thanks

nothing good can come of it, don't do it.no no no no.
trust me.

tempting as it is it will either bring a lot of heartache or be a profound anti climax

This subject comes up surprisingly often on mumsnet and the answer is always a resounding no! Really take the advice of all the women on here, more often than not this is a mistake and leads to problems, leave the past where it is.

AVOID ! AVOID ! AVOID !

A very old ex contacted me through FR a few months ago. I had no hidden agenda (thought he was just curious as to how things had turned out for me) and so I replied to his mail. I was 100% honest with DH about it (DH doesn't know the ex), but it STILL caused ructions. Ex started trying to engage me in conversation about our sex life (mine and his, not mine and DH's), I told him I didn't want to talk about it, it was water under the bridge and I wasn't interested in reminiscing over it. He wouldn't take no for an answer and was asking 'Does your husband know about us talking?', my answer was 'Of course he does, what's not to tell ?!'. Dh and I ended up having a stupid but serious row about it. I cut contact with ex dead there and then.

All that happened when I HAD NO FEELINGS for ex, getting into chat with ex's you do still carry a torch for is utterly sucidal, IMO. If you do love your DP and value your relationship, I would avoid contacting ex. It is not worth the temptation.

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i made contact with my first love through freinds reunited one night when i was feeling low and a bit tipsy (correction, very tipsy ). seemed like a good idea at the time. we exchanged a few emails, all of which i showed to dh so nothing was going on behind his back and the contact came to a natural end.

it is a dangerous thing to get into though, particularly if you still have a soft spot for him.