has a friendship of yours suffered because of parenting disagreement?

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Just wondered if anyone else has been there.

I had a friend for many years but since both having dc it often seems hard work and fraught with disagreement. Anyway it's got to the point that the disagreements or difference in opinion with parenting seem to be souring the previous friendship. I've tried meeting her without the dc (nights out etc) which go better.

Friend's dc (3) is often bossy or rough, not just with with my 2yo but with all toddlers in the friendship group. Friend won't intervene or makes half-hearted calls to her dc to stop which he ignores. Friend doesn't like anyone else to intervene though either (e.g. her dc being rough, I distract my dc to remove him from the situation. Friend makes comments to my dc or her dc instead of talking directly to me, or follows up with a snidey comment about something unrelated.) I realise this may seem a minor complaint but I dont want my 2yo to get the message that other children can hit him / snatch toys from him etc without consequence.

Yes in the past. Today, less so because most people involved significantly in my life tend to have a similar parenting ethos to mine. Everyone is different though, and I have no problem living and let live as long as those in my life are capable of the same. As long as the "your house, your rules" line is followed (excepting outrageous infringements) things tend to work out fine.

Yes, once. One of friend's DC was just out of control, and she made no attempt to step in or resolve problems. Both parents were completely oblivious as the DC broke things, screamed, played nasty little tricks on other children, and generally turned any play situation into a nightmare. Did DC have SEN? Maybe, many of us suggested they check it out, but they would not hear of it. I feel sorry for their DC - it's really not their fault - but there's only so much of the parenting car crash I could watch.