advice over difficult chat please x

[daiseehope]

I have to sit down as a middle aged woman and tell my mum that I was abused by a neighbour. I have to as I have decided after 30 yrs of being a fuck up to go for it. unfortunately I am scared! what do I say to minimise her distress / guilt? thanks so much xx

Well done for being brave! I don't have any experience, but couldn't read this and not cheer you on!
Have you had counselling yourself?

Speaking as a mum AND as a daughter, I don't think it is your job to minimise your mum's distress/guilt for something bad that happened to you when you were a child.

I'm very sorry this happened to you, and I think you are being very brave to confront this now. Just sit down with her and tell her gently, quietly and calmly, without apologising for the substance of what you're telling her. Don't say "I'm sorry if this upsets you" etc - yes it will upset her, but your feelings are paramount here.

Best of luck. x

Wow! Saw you on the 'judge' thread. You've really set your mind to it, haven't you. Well done, I really hope it brings you some closure. I have no advice sadly, apart from instead of agonising for ages, just do it.

I'm sorry this happened to you. Take care. x