Dh and I are already in couple therapy and I've discovered another major issue to talk about... Obviously he treats these sessions with contempt, his lies and secrecy are frankly disturbing.
However, I don't want to be dramatic and dh isn't what I'd call evil, simply selfish. And I don't mean the bit of selfishness we all indulge in from time to time, nobody's expected to be perfect.
But dhs selfishness overrides everything.
His parents, I.e. his mother, is pretty open about doting on him, telling me stories of her husbands neglect and how she turned to,her oldest son for emotional support (what we'd now call covert incest). Basically, he is still the same spoiled, entitled brat.
Eventhough he has blamed exw for failure of first marriage, I can see now that his selfishness probably caused her a lot of anguish.
Whenever I've had enough and prepared to leave him he would make an extreme effort to pacify me and make up for past misdemeanors, but its become a bit creepy how much he seems to make me his mum, becomes all,needy etc.
Is this a case for a psychiatrist?