Is this a completely stupid idea??

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My first boyfriend has recently contacted me via FB to tell me that his wife has walked out on him. We have had sporadic FB contact over the last few years and I know that he has lost contact with his friends and he has told me previously that he doesn't have anyone that he could really talk to. He is a SAHD so has no colleagues either.

I feel extremely sorry for him and am wondering whether it would be wise to arrange to meet up with him so he can talk to me. I haven't seen him since we split up - we have discussed our break up (he finished with me but I wasn't blameless in the split) via our FB chats so there is no lingering bitterness.

However, I can't help thinking that it would potentially open up a can of worms if I was to offer to meet him...he was my first boyfriend and there is definitely a piece of my heart that will only ever belong to him. I am happily married with 2 DC.

It really isn't a good idea to see if he wants to meet is it?

Nope keep your distance even on FB.

Don't do it.

Don't even think about it! Leave well alone!

Would you like DH to meet a special ex who is so sad and needy behind your back?

Of course it's a bad idea.

Unless of course, you were planning on you and your DH meeting him in an effort to cheer him up ?

No, you are all absolutely tright - I need to back off. And yes, i would feel awful if DH was thinking about meeting an ex in this situation

Doesn't help that my DSis met up again with her first boyfriend about 4 years ago and subsequently left her husband, got divorced and is now married to her first love...does make me think things which I shouldn't

consign this guy to history and work on your marriage!

It's predictable amazing how these heartbreak Harrys never offload to their male FB pals or the nursery or school dads. No, they hit on who they think is a surefire source of ego boosts, sexual flattery and endless listening- the ex who they finished with.

Stay well away, love.

Your marriage might be happy now, but soon it won't be if you give heartbreak Harry any encouragement.

Sob stories on the internet are ten a penny. I wouldn't believe a word of it!

Are you going to do it anyway?

Stay all-in with your dh; he is the one that married you.
Your sister's story does not mean that will be what will happen for you. You could very well end up losing your dh and your bored first boyfriend. Stay away and perserve the happy memory as that-a memory.

Very wize advice here! X

I think it's nice that you are concerned about him but he's a grown man and he really should take responsibility for his own happiness now.

It really isn't worth risking any ill feeling with your DH over.

Given your sisters history I'm sure your husband would feel a bit uncomfortable if you did arrange it. I'm not a jealous gf but I would be concerned if my partner wanted to do this. You yourself say that a bit of your heart will always belong to him. Too emotionally charged imo.

I wouldn't meet, even with your DH on tow.

I'd be weary of the sob story too.

Send him a link to NM for support, for example.

Thanks for the advice wise words indeed and helped me get.perspective on it.

I don't think he is a 'heartbreak Harry' - unless he has changed in the last 20 years, I dont think he has that in him.

but I see it makes sense to steer clear

Deffo do not. I was all for you meeting up until you said you were married!

I met the love of my life from years ago and have had a 3 year relationship with him, it has not ended well. Sometimes the past is best left in the past. We often look back with rose tinted glasses on but when relaity bites it is not pretty, you are different people now xx