help my bf is always on dating sites and porn sites

[leannedavies1991]

I dont know what to do I love my bf sooo much we have a 3 year old daughter and im pregnant with our second I think he hates me he is always talking to other women online (DATE SITES) amd watching porn im 6 monthes gone and he have done this on and off for 4 years everytime I confront him he makes me feel crazy evan ifI pull up the convos off othe women he says he aint done nothing evan when I prove it to him I just cant take no more I would never do this to him I love him way to much for that and evan when he does admit it he makes me feel he wont do it again and when I start thinking things are going wellnhe does it again everyman all my life have treated me like crap evan my dad left mu mum when I was 11 andni havnt seen him since I just want to feel loved and protected like I nnever have I just wanted a family and to be happy (WITH HIM)I just dont know if I cam take any , ore I just want to be treared right for a change I also have no one to talk to about this as I know they will judge him!!!Ifelt likeca ccomplete jigsaw when we 1st met and everytime he does this he takes a piece of itvaway with him everytime.soon there will be nothing left to take.its makes me feel worthless and that 8m not good enough and wen we argue he calls me things like a c**t I just really dont know what to do coz I know deep down he's got a good heart.i just feel so low and put a face on everyday so one knows how much im hurting I hide my tears untill im alone :(

What exactly do you love about him because he sounds ville?

I know deep down he's got a good heart
No he doesn't. This is something you need to understand here and quickly.
You KNOW this man is no good for you.
He makes you feel like crap.

You even state he keeps takes 'pieces of you'.
You really will be left with nothing of you if you keep allowing this vile person to keep digging away and your self esteem.
Get out now before it's all gone.
Seriously, I really don't think there is anything to save here.
Do you have family or friends you could talk to?
Of course they will judge him and so they should!
He will NOT change.
No matter what he says he won't!
Stop enabling him and get away and be happy on your own terms with your DC.
The only thing he brings you is 'down'.
Probably not what you wanted to hear but there are soooo many abusive red flags in your OP it's quite scary!

This man is the latest in a long line of men who have let you down starting with your Dad.

You were and remained damaged by your dad walking out and your innate vulnerability and wanting to be loved (by any man) were great news for this abuser of yours now, he likely swept you off your feet because he was probably the first man to have ever paid your any attention. He feels now like he owns you so he can abuse you as he sees fit. He does not know the meaning of the word love.

He does not have a good heart and he will destroy you utterly (as well as your children) if you do not find it within yourself to leave. He enjoys taunting you and knows you won't leave him because you are paralysed with fear and perhaps also "love" him. You cannot love someone this damaged better, you cannot rescue and or save him.

This is not the role model for your DD and her as yet unborn sibling to be having in their lives. You can and should leave him.

Please call Womens Aid; they can and will help you here.

Sorry you are being treated so badly. I think you need to fully realise you really dont deserve it. I doubt you will get any advice on how turn this relationship round becase I really feel this is not possible as he seems to show no love or respect for you at all. If you can at the moment you need to start thinking how you can get away from him, do you have family and friends you can talk to, I advise you to talk to them very soon.

Gosh he's done a number on you hasn't he?

Please read this thread for starters.

And please listen to the wise people here.

What exactly do you love sooooo much?

The fact he's demeaning you?

The fact that he's teaching your children how to abuse women and get away with it?

Please? Get some RL help. Get out, get your children out asap.