Do you find that if you work rather than being a sahm. It seems to keep your dh on his toes a little more. Not necessarily in a bad way, but they see you as being more independent, socialising more and are aware that you have a life outside the home.
I find that when I'm not working (maternity leave etc), my dh becomes quite comfortable, I become more 'wifey' and perhaps depend on him more emotionally (pleased when he is home to help with the children etc). I go out, but less drinking and more with other moms etc.
However, when I'm at work and everything that goes with that (banter, client drinks etc), he seems to be more on his toes (ie I'm not just at home, cooking, cleaning etc).
Only subtle differences in his behaviour but noticeable. Do any of you notice this with your dh?