We are both self employed. Dh is full time, I work part time and do most school runs, most child care and just about ALL the housework. Dh will play with the kids - age 9 and 6 - and take them to school, clubs etc. he does dishwasher, setting and clearing table but that is about It.
He is so fucking untidy it drives me batshit. I have started to book a cleaner every few weeks. Last time she came was mid July. I have booked her for next week. Dh said 'again?' Implying she is coming too often.
I said I am fed up doing housework and being responsible for everything; what does he suggest? He last hoovered maybe 6 months ago, has cooked twice this year, never ever cleans bathrooms or tidies up. He never does tesco shopping or meal planning.
He does work long hours and he says I should be grateful he is around to take kids to school etc. Well, I am, but they are his kids!! But I am fed up of working and dong everything, and feel very taken for granted. How do we move on from here? Housework is one of the few things we argue about. But we do argue about it a lot. He says I never appreciate anything he does and just see what he doesn't do... ;-)
PLease, does anyone have any helpful suggestions to get us past this? It's affecting our relationship 'cause I don't want to have sex with him - feels like one more chore on the list. Help please!