Help - can I call the police on behalf of my sis?

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Sorry, don't know where to get help with this, my sis came to me last night, crying and bruised. Her H essentially attacked her and through her out their house because there was nothing for him to eat!!! Full frontal punch in the face? This morning she is shaken and friend and has just received a text saying that all her stuff will be on the doorstep. The irony, she is the main bread winner and pays the bloody mortgage!
This is not the first time she has been assaulted by him and I think she must report it. She thinks this will just provoke him further!!
If she has been assaulted can the police make him leave the home until it is sold/ they divorce or would she have to stay in it with him?
Really hoping someone can advise here as my blood is boiling with rage over how she has been treated.

Where is your sister now?
How is she?
Have you asked her if you can ring the Police?
It would be better if she did it but if she can't for any reason you can ring them.

She needs to get straight to the Police and have them photograph her injuries. If she makes a full statement they will arrest him and get an injunction banning from the family home. He is a danger to her - a punch can kill even if that's not his intention. She's lucky that she has you to turn to.

I would get her to report it to the police with you. She needs to be the one I think but this is totally unacceptable. They no longer treat this kind of thing as "a domestic" and do take it seriously. He can be prosecuted for abh and have a restraining order put on him. Also he cannot (legally) evict her from a house if her name is on the mortgage.
Your poor poor sister. I feel so sad for her. But the appeasement is not the way to go as she will live in fear.

Contact the police and ask their advice

Sorry - pressed send before I meant to!
Where is your sister now? Has she sought any medical treatment for her injuries? If not she should.
When the Police have been your sister can ring Women's Aid for advice on all the practical things she will need to ask but i) Police ii) Medical attention. I would reverse these if she needs urgent hospital treatment.

Oh yes and as everyone else says ... photograph her bruises now and as they develop. If she puts off reporting him - which I hope she doesn't - you will still have the evidence you will need.
Someone close to me went through the same thing and the police were excellent.

Imagine you saw an elderly woman attacked and punched in the street by her neighbour. Elderly woman confesses she will not report because of fear of further physical attacks ...and you walk on by

Your poor sister. Call 101 and ask their advice? I would have thought that anyone can report a crime, not just the victim.

You can report it. My DS used to be in an abusive relationship however we lived hundreds of miles away from each other. She phoned me one night in tears describing what had happened and I had had enough of it. I didn't even tell her but as soon as I got off the phone I phoned her local police station and reported it. They went straight round there and he was arrested. Once she had the support of the police she had the courage to press charges I don't think she would ever of had the courage to do it herself.

The police cannot make him leave until divorce but can in the short term.

If she reports it he will be arrested and should be given bail conditions to not go there or approach her. This will only last until he goes to court.

While he is on bail she can see a solicitor and try to get a non molestation order. Which will last as long as the court order says but will be longer than the bail conditions.

Thank you everyone. She has bruises and I've just taken a picture on my phone. She is calling police now, she is shaking and saying SHE is embarrassed!! I cannot actually believe this is happening. She is trying to put a " scale" on this, like "it was just one punch".
I am trying to tell her this will only escalate.

It's never just one punch.

My Dad started off with one punch. Then one punch and a few bites. Twenty years later it was a full on beating, biting and cigarette burns.

I wish someone had called the police on my DMs behalf.

Oh good she's phoning. It is never ever just once. Never, especially as he is showing no remorse today and is still punishing her.
And it is utterly not her fault. Ask her if she would punch you in the face for not making her dinner? Any one? For any reason? No ... because it is NEVER acceptable.

Glad you are there supporting her. Good luck ... it's going to be a hard ride but it's all his fault not hers.

Do call the police on her behalf and get her injuries seen by a doctor as well. She may also need dental treatment.

I would also be talking to Womens Aid.

Glad to see that she is infact calling the police herself. This is also where your support will be invaluable; help her press charges against her violent H.

Remind her as well that the only acceptable level of violence within a relationship is none.

please contact women's aid, website here

Just waiting for Police to get to us for the statement. She will only go back to the house for her things with the Police, even if they arrest him she is too frightened to stay, says it all really. I am just about to clear some space in the spare room for her

What a lovely sister you are OP, hopefully with your support your sister will continue to do the right thing and leave her husband. Are there any children involved?

Lovely you. I hope the police reassured your sister and she's feeling safer now.

How are you and your dsis today OP