Love for a spouse vs love for a child , which is stronger

[mommytobe234]

Tell me from your experience.

It is difficult to be sure whether there's anything wrong with it as a question without knowing your reason for asking it.

@annie
Just curious .

Annie is absolutely right. You start from a different premise - your DH/DP is an adult, your child is - well a child. Obviously you will side with the child, who needs protecting! And any adult (including DP/DH) who threatens that child is out the window instantly!

Any father who does not completely protect his children and expects you to put his needs first is not worthy of the title 'father'. Children must always be put first.

Also agree with Annie about adult children though! Many a marriage has improved beyond all expectations when the children leave home!

And once your children have left home- in what seems the blink of an eye, looking back- you have decades with your DH on your own. The last thing adults DCs want is a mother living through them- ask anyone on here about MILs!
Children come first- you love them unconditionally and you protect them. Love for DH is conditional.
I don't see why you compare them, or why you need to.

My heart sinks when I read this because it sounds like there is a conflict. In truth I love my ds more than anything in this world but I want him to grow into a good husband and have a happy family, and we are getting into that stage in his life where he has to learn to be separate from me. I was single for a long time raising him so we are extremely close. NOw there is DH and I want ds to know that I am fine and he can spread his wings and be independent. Loving children is eventually a love that forces you to gently push them out of the nest for their own long term good. Very different to loving a dh.

You give them roots and give them wings. It is a natural progression- you let go gradually. If you do it well they come back because they want to. You can love all sorts of people in different ways- there is no need to analyse and compare. Love is infinite.