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Help me reconnect

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disconnectedmum · 06/09/2013 09:28

Have name changed for this probably as I'm very embarrassed at feeling this way. I have a beautiful 20 month old DS but feel absolutely disconnected from anyone bar him.

My family live about 250 miles away and I don't speak to them often. DP works very long hours and has cut connect with his family, although they are local we haven't seen them in a year.

I work part time but was promoted after maternity leave which is great but now means I work separately from colleagues except when directly doing supervision sessions. None of my friends have DC and are spread over the world, I used to go visit people a lot but now can't afford too, so gradually losing touch.

I have tried taking DS to toddler groups and really tried to start conversations with people. Found this very difficult and mostly end up crying in the car on the way home.

I feel as though DS is the only interesting thing about me anymore and feel like giving up as I don't have anything to talk to people about even if I try. How do I start to connect to people again? I feel like I've reached breaking point this morning and have had to put the TV to distract DS and then just sat here and cried. I feel bad as he keeps looking at me worried and has given me his teddy to cuddle.

Any ideas of how I can get out of this rut would be much appreciated.

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NothingsLeft · 06/09/2013 09:44

I have a 17 month old and sometimes feel a bit the same. I'm in a similar situation family and friend wise. It's been quite isolating becoming a mum.

Can you take up a hobby in the evening? I've been thinking about joining a choir.

disconnectedmum · 06/09/2013 14:32

I joined the gym a few weeks ago and was hoping to start going to classes there, so far DP hasn't been home from work in time though.

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NothingsLeft · 06/09/2013 14:43

It's tricky if that's the case. Could you agree to one evening a week for something? Sounds like you're feeling quite low. Is your DP supportive?

In terms of conversation topics, I alway try and read current affairs of some kind so i have something non-baby/work related to talk about if I get stuck. Can you still do lunch with colleagues occasionally?

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