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Oh Bugger Part Two

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pie · 13/02/2004 21:08

I don't know if any of you remember the rather charming family from this thread?

DD1 wants to invite the girl to her birthday party I really can't face the mum (again - and this time the grandma will be on day release from the psychiatric hospital). Do I ask the girl, knowing her whole family tag along? I was thinking of saying I need to keep Adult numbers down so can they drop her off and if thats not ok with them I will meet up with them another time. Or is that rude of me?

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kiwisbird · 13/02/2004 21:13

If they do turn up en masse at least if you pre pay the kids meals you won't have to pick up the tab... Thats one minor problem solved, smile and grin and bear through one small day?
I'm not great with people like that, I'd rather not have a party
My poor kids
xx J

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pie · 13/02/2004 21:15

Sorry I should have said, DD1 will be having a plate painting party, so it will be small and private and I feel like if the mum etc turns up I will be sooo stressed that DD1 would get upset. But she likes the little girl and word would get back to the mum as we have mutual friends.

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twiglett · 13/02/2004 21:16

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pie · 13/02/2004 21:18

The mum has this really annoying habit of saying can you watch the kids for a minute and then disappearing to have a cigarette every 20 minutes.

The second option then twigglet? I thought it was the most diplomatic one and if they trust me not to lose their daughter then DD1 could have her friend.

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prufrock · 13/02/2004 21:25

Oh no. If it's not too much out of the way could you or dh go and pick her up? If you phrase it like that it makes it more difficult for them to presume they are invited as well, (although remembering last time they probably wouldn't care about being rude and inviting themsleves)

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pie · 13/02/2004 21:28

Thats a good idea prufrock, the actually live 2 streets away (same road as my mum) so we could certainly pick up and drop off the little girl anyway.

Does anyone else find that the kid is nice and the parent horrid OR the parent is nice and the kid is horrid.

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collision · 17/02/2004 19:21

Just read the whole of both threads.....what a nightmare situation, though I feel most sorry for your dd's little friend! She would probably welcome a break from her awful family. I think I would def ask to pick her up and drop her back so that you dont have to spend any time at all seeing her parents or g'parents. Poor thing.....hope the party goes well.

motherinferior · 18/02/2004 09:22

Hope you've solved this one, Pie. If you haven't spoken to them yet, the 'demands of the baby' are always a good one for justifying, well, just about anything, I find

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