Long distance

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I've met someone I like loads but he lives over 3 hrs away. He's a friend of my brother (who lives in his city) and we've been at lots of weddings and parties with mutual friends all summer. No kids, in our 20's, both work office hrs. I can't stop thinking about him and we talk every day.

Am I barking mad for even considering this as a potential relationship?

If you're young, have compatible working hours and no DC yet, I can't see a problem with this save travelling costs and perhaps the fact that if it gets really serious one or both of you will end up having to make the decision to relocate.

I've never had a long distance romance before and I'm a bit unsure how it all works as with exes we've seen each other 5 or 6 days a week or so.

There's no formula. You just see each other when you are able to and want to.

But I want to see him all the time

I may be over-thinking it

I'm guessing you haven't been together all that long if you're still at the stage at wanting to see him all the time. That's why it's not a good idea to completely alter your life in order to make this relationship work. By all means spend all your spare time together, but don't neglect your work, family, friends or hobbies until you've known each other a fair time. If you eventually move to be with him, you have to be as sure as anyone can be that he's worth doing that for. That means giving him a chance to display the red flags, although hopefully he won't.

Try to think of it as making the time you have together all that more meaningful. It does tend to make the sex very good.

We're not even together really yet... It sounds a bit woo but as soon as I saw him I felt so drawn to him, I can't remember feeling like this about anyone else ever. Mad crush

Thanks for the grounding reminders

DH and I were long distance from our second date (he moved to Spain a fortnight after we met). It forced us to be quite 'sensible' about our relationship early on (i.e decide it was worth it) and we didn't have any probs when we finally moved in together after 15 months or so.