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NEED HELP TO NOT text an arsehole!!!

17 replies

Beccaloolah · 04/09/2013 21:22

OK - in a nutshell splitting with partner who has history of prostitutes and relationship with girl in the office. Split in April but still share house (sorry to those I've bored about this on other posts). Got flirty/sexty with very attractive man who ex OH confronted in the street on Thursday. Flirty guy blamed me - coward - and has ignored me since.

In fact gave me utterly horrid evil looks this morning,

Thing is, and I'm going to be honest ladies - I really fell for him. Like BIG TIME. Trusted him with a lot of personal stuff and felt he understood. He even said we were so alike it was unnerving.

Anyway, I move out in a week and I'm now slightly tipsy and have the urge to text the flirty guy even though I know it is totally wrong and I will beat myself up about it in the morning,

I fear I have such low self esteem I bloody need validation from him that the whole flirty shit was not just in my head.

HELP!

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Hemlet · 04/09/2013 21:26

Oh you poor love. I've been in a very similar situation and it's so hard not to text a twat after a few drinks. All I can suggest is to remember the crap about it all and just what a bad idea it is. You will regret it in the morning as you know and it's just not worth it.

You sound like an intelligent lovely girl who doesn't need valuation from someone like that.

Don't do it duck xxx

foolonthehill · 04/09/2013 21:26

Move away from the phone, make large mug of Brew...no wine you'll cave in...knit/crochet/file...keep your fingers busy. Change his name on your phone to "do not contact this w*kr you deserve better" or even better block it completely.

Go on grab your new life and go find yourself, then someone who is worthy of you.

MexicanHat · 04/09/2013 21:26

DON'T DO IT!!! The other guy was awful to you when it came out!! He is now ignoring you. Why on earth would you want any contact with him? He also has a girlfriend.

Get an early night.

Anniegetyourgun · 04/09/2013 21:26

Nooo, you won't get validation if he's been giving you evil looks. Probably the opposite. No good can come of this, as you very well know.

The good news is that Mumsnet is an excellent substitute for texting when you know you shouldn't. Keep those thumbs busy typing on here instead. Oh, and how about scrolling through the MN Classics threads and finding a really long, hilarious one to take your mind totally off the whole ex bastard/flirty coward axis of stupid? The zombie apocalypse ones, for example, are brilliant value for no money at all!

cheapskatemum · 04/09/2013 21:29

Really feel for you because I know what it's like to totally fall for a guy and then have to try & reel in. (((Big hugs))). Can you just keep telling yourself he's not worth it? Pray to a God you may or may not believe in? Hopefully someone will be along soon who has brilliant advice. Dahleen & CogitoErgoSometimes helped me out bigtime in the past.

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Beccaloolah · 04/09/2013 21:30

Im very new to MN and it is bloody great -- thank you all. Silence to that twat is strength, I know it!! But god he is delicious. I've run out of wine which is a good thing. Thank you all - and big strength to everyone. XX

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piratecat · 04/09/2013 21:34

get a cup of tea, and remind yourself you have nothing to prove and you certainly do NOT need validation from such a creeparse.

Trust yourself.

RedPencils · 04/09/2013 21:36

Delete him from your phone. Now

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Beccaloolah · 04/09/2013 21:41

I have - annoyingly iphones don't actually delete numbers - YOU just bloody text the name of them and it pops up. But, I WILL not text The Cunt

XXX

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daphnesglasses · 04/09/2013 21:46

write something next to the number (on your iphone) such as 'do not text this dick' ? Grin

PedantMarina · 04/09/2013 21:52

Flirt with us!

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Beccaloolah · 04/09/2013 21:55

His number used to be TC - as in THE CRUSH - now it says TOTALCUNT. It is working, but it is hard. He is one sexy MF! He made me feel good and gave me the strength to leave OH - though was never the reason. I now feel like i have to move on from another manipulative, controllilng a-hole. God I'm a knob who needs to get away from these "types"

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foolonthehill · 04/09/2013 22:01

OW....cut yourself some slack...you don't know someone until you know them, now you know!

Hot or not, he's still a TC!!Wink

Hissy · 04/09/2013 22:24

Do I need to give you a Hard Stare?

Talk to us... we're GOOD for you.

TC isn't! :)

daphnesglasses · 04/09/2013 22:28

perhaps you could change his name to LTB and then you'll always think of MN and remember to come here instead Wink

Xales · 04/09/2013 23:28

He may be pretty on the outside but he is shit inside, failing to mention his girlfriend then dumping on you and saying it was all you.

Just think he has probably done this before and has a rancid pus weeping cock.

Hope that helps Grin

Halfahundred · 05/09/2013 05:03

Iphones DO delete contacts. I ve just tried it as an experiment. Completely deleted. Can t access it through typing in name. Go into settings, delete their number by tapping on Edit, then minus sign. Delete their name from your list by scrolling down and tapping 'Delete this Contact'

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