She seemed to love it when I was a single parent struggling on a council estate on minimum wage and would call all the time and always want to speak. Whenever things started looking up for me she became "snappy" and "off".
Anyway I met my now DP who was lovely, wanted to travel the world like me, motivated and a hard worker, high paid job and good with money and all of a sudden she doesn't want to know (unless she thinks we're on the verge of splitting and then she's interested again!). I got into university and it wasn't a case of congratualtions it was a host of negative comments:
"but how will you manage?"
"what about the kids?"
"you'll get into debt"
"what if you waste all that time and can't get a job at the end of it?"
"You'll get too tired and stressed out" etc etc etc
Anyway I percevered with it and am coming up to final year now and she's accepted that I WILL qualify next year (although I think secretely hopes I won't find a job, she says it enough). And I've just got another job - hence a load more negative comments "oooo you'll be too tired" "you'll miss the kids, who's looking after them anyway?" etc etc
When we bought our house she constantly went on about how I won't like it, isn't it a massive mortgage? are you not struggling to pay it? do you not think you're out your depth? etc etc
Someone told her we were struggling to make ends meet and that's why I've had to get an extra job so she called me all excited asking if we're struggling to pay the mortgage, do I regret moving in with DP, am I actually happy with DP? etc etc. Then she found out we were planning a trip to Paris (just the two of us, romantic weekend away) and again got all pissed off asking how we afford what we do, are we not struggling? etc etc. A couple of days ago she was winding me up fishing for negative things in my life so I told her that yeah, we're going to Paris, we are not struggling to do so and we're not doing it on the cheap. We're also taking the kids to Alton Towers, going to next year's Glastonbury, planning to go to Mexico next year and also planning a short break to see the Northern Lights - oh and my new job is going great AND - I'm quite confident about my upcoming exams. She went right off and moody and has not spoken to me since. I've since found out she has been complaining that her husband works hard and they struggle and there's "people like us" rolling in it and living the life of Riley and it aint fair.
Yes her husband works hard but I'm sorry - they're absolutely SHIT with money. They have no pension and recently got an inheritance of £30k - any normal couple would think "great, retirement money!" - but no they go and blow it all on a camper van that they can only use a couple of times a year. They've had a string of financial cock-ups over the years and that is NOT my fault, nor is it my fault that she doesn't work and therefore the two of them rely on £17k a year lone wage.
I'm sick of her going off in a mood everytime she thinks things are going well for someone, she's like it with everyone, constantly complaining when anyone gets a new house, a new car or goes on holiday and constantly questions other people's finances.
I'm not stupid, I know how quickly the confident can fall and I'm NOT cocky about it, dp could lose his job tomorrow and then we'd be up shit creek without a paddle but until that happens, why can't she just be happy for me and stop wishing everything would fuck up for me???