DP just never seems interested or happy in anything I do. I have two major end of year exams next week and he keeps forgetting, says stuff like "got anything on next week?" or "what you upto next week?" etc. Dont get me wrong I don't expect him o hang off my ever word and know my life inside out but he's just not bothered at all. On top of my degree I've just got a new job which will help us out massively financially. When I found out I'd been successful he didn't seem that interested, said he'd take me out to celebrate and never did. Never wanted to talk about it yet said he was "happy for me" and "proud".
I started said job yesterday and he didn't seem that bothered about that either. Barely asked me how my first day went, wasn't interested in the pay, pension or anything else so when I got home we barely spoke about it. He left work at 4.30 and I left at 4.45. It takes him 10 minutes to get home - it takes me 45 minutes to get home through busy traffic yet when I got home all he wanted to do was moan about what the kids had done. I made tea, made him a drink, did the packed lunches, baked a simple cake and then started studying for my exam and he was pissed off that I'd left the kitchen a mess - we'd BOTH been at work all day, why was EVERYTHING my job?
It's not just work either, it's everything else. He's been promising me since Christmas that he'd start Badminton or Squash with me yet nothing has come of it. Last week he came home saying he'd had a great time playing tennis with guys from work. I got a bit pissed off and said "right, I'll find a friend to play with then shall I?" and he replied "yeah you may as well." - realising what was up he then added "Oh no, book it and I'll come with you" - yeah sure you will, for one day under duress. Oh what fun.
He did the same thing with cinema. Arranged to go with me a couple of weeks ago and then went with friends instead.
He's never interested in my hobbies or anything I'm doing either. I sometimes think he misses his ex wife's style of living which was just staying at home all day cleaning and tidying. No job, no friends, no hobbies - how simple life must have been for him then when his woman had nothing going on in her life but him and the kids. Is this what he wants??
He never wants to have sex either. If ever I try and initiate it he says he's too tired yet he insists on coming to bed past midnight everynight to ENSURE he's too tired for anything else. If I suggest an early night he says "but I can't sleep this early" - that's the idea!!!
God I feel like giving up. He's never happy with anything I try and do. This new job will benefit us BOTH. Why can't he be happy?
We've just booked to go to Barcelona for a few nights - he doesn't seem interested in that either saying it's "ages away" (6 weeks away) yet when he was going away with the lads to Leeds festival he couldn't contain his excitement and was constantly on the internet searching for it.
Is it just me then or what?