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Why did he see her?

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Anyonedotcom · 03/09/2013 20:19

Sorry slightly ambiguous and misleading title but don't want partner to read this he knows I come on here.

We har just argued over something silly but important principle. We have a chaise lounge? (sp) it has been assumed that it is his seat, whenever anyone else sits in it he tells them to move (myself or child) whenever he has been confronted by me about it it blows up into ab argument where he sulks off saying "fine you sit there I'm going to bed" so I had stopped bothering to question him. He has "allowed" me to sit there a few times including my birthday! And I am meant to feel privileged.

Well tonight after being banished yet again I decided to pursue it again, suprise suprise he reacted te same way and stormed off! So I followed asking him why can't he e mature about it and why diss he think it is acceptable to go on like this. He reacted by ignoring me and vein passive agreesive saying why are you making a big deal and fine I'll never sit there again. I got angry and said fuck you immature I know but I was wound up.

I'm so confused why does he do this he is an intelligent man he knows it is totally not on.
I'm sad and angry.

1 hour later he has apologised and said he was out of order and he won't do it again but I've heard that before :-(

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Sugary · 03/09/2013 20:22

It sounds very strange. Is he on the spectrum? It isn't normal behaviour...

QuintessentialOldDear · 03/09/2013 20:23

This is not normal.
Sorry, is he possessive and controlling in other ways?

absentmindeddooooodles · 03/09/2013 20:30

Really not normal. Ive had arguments with dp that follow the same kind of line. Bit about serious things...worst one was child safety....he went off on onesaying fine ill never take him anywhere again etc etc. Ive met a few people who react like this when questioned. But to do this repeatedly over something so unimportant is strange.

Anyonedotcom · 03/09/2013 20:39

I don't believe he is Asd, though i can see now he it would seem that way. I don't think he is possessive he always encourages me to go out (I rarely do as so tired from work most of the time and don't have many friends tbh)

He can be quite particular about things like if I don't put my plates back in the right place or when he wants something done he wants it done right away.

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JoinYourPlayfellows · 03/09/2013 20:47

"when he wants something done he wants it done right away."

So presumably he does it himself then?

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