Feel like I've made a breakthough. The majority of feelings of doubt, insecurity, being abnormal and unlovable have for the first time in my life that I can remember been replaced by empowered feelings and a higher sense of self-worth. This has coincided with me distancing myself from my mum, not physically (she helps out with childcare), but emotionally and by rising above when she tries to draw me into unhealthy behaviours.
My mum is, I suppose, quite a subtle narc, she is a smother mother who almost, to outsiders, would appear to love us too much. Yet, she treated me like her possession for years and previously I always felt like a dependant puppet who couldn't survive without her help (she always seemed happier when I was upset because I needed her). Well, no more.
Just wondered -any tips for silencing the residual doubts? doubts I assume which tend to be inherent with children of narc parents (something about not having the chance to develop a good, healthy sense of self and individuality maybe..). I'm dealing with the guilt but it's difficult; I'm currently the black sheep in the family because I've put my foot down, but I care a helluva lot less than I used to 
My relationship with her and my step-dad is terrible though. I guess that's the cost...