BF and DD have argued! Advice please

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Background to this is that I have been a LP for 12 years and have 2 DD aged 23 and 20. The older one has left home and the younger is going to university at the end of September. I have been dating BF for 15 months and he has no children. We have broken up a couple of times and I have been really upset. Since then, he has been helping me with jobs around the house, decorating and DIY. The result of this is that youngest DD has been rude and hostile to BF and he now says that no-one has ever been so rude to him in his life and he will never speak to her again. I have said that this makes our relationship untenable.

I think that DD is both protective of me and that the timing is wrong for her as we have always been close and I am developing a new relationship at a time when she is leaving home.

Am I being selfish? I do not want to lose him or to risk my relationship with her.

age that's a bit harsh!

Doha - that is good advice. I will reassure her and will definitely slow things down. Agree that he is being immature and it does not bode well for our future, if any.

But I shouldn't need to consult a 20 year old about tiles for our bathroom!
No but you have let her help chose up until now so effectively she is being squeezed out
Can you not see what you are doing OP or are you so desperate to be a "couple" in a proper relationship that you are prepared to throw away your relationship with your DD

Spot the flags love, spot the flags.

This relationship is going nowhere. He's not going to want to share you with your children and will make sure they're edged out somehow.

You should have stayed broken up tbh.

I hadn't realised what I was doing and am really glad I posted on here as you are spot on. I am desperate not to throw away my relationship with DD and will aim to put this right before she goes. Her feelings have been hurt and I will talk to her about it.

This post has really helped.