After 29 years I think our relationship is over ...

[furbaby]

Mmm big row tonight :( we both work full time and I do most of cooking cleaning lunchboxs paying bills etc
hubby has started to cook his own meals but not cooked for me:( tonight I said it would be nice if he cooked for me as well as for last 20 + I have cooked for him and he went right on one saying how I should be grateful he is helping and if I begrudge doing so much around the house then I should, nt do it .... grrr I don, t begrudge but why can, t he cook for me , ok I am veggy but even beans and waffles would be nice .
can, t believe how angry he is , he has stormed off upstairs and won, t speak to me .
I have spent last 29 years walking on egg shells keeping him happy and he can, t even have an adult conversation as to why he can, t cook for me ...

You sound in a bad state, OP. This is only the tip of an iceberg I suspect?

Has it all been ok up until now though?
Is it just a stupid row?

I reached the point where i was ready to leave after 20 years of marriage, although truth be told I should have left after the first year.
I expect there's a bit more going on too OP?

I'm not usually one to say LTB but if you've been walking on eggshells for all this time and can't talk to him, then I'd say seriously contemplate getting out now. I'm assuming from the length of marriage that you're around my age -early 50's - or perhaps a little older. Do you really want to grow old with him?

Not sure to be honest . He had always been controlling but when we lost our beloved dog in may things went very wrong , he was very depressed and he turned everything round to me not loving him enough or me wanting to be with other people ie our daughter more than him :(

I am sure I have read these posts before, OP. Has this happened before?

No miss strawberry , not sure what you have read but certainly not from me .

Things no better :( hubby still sulking upstairs , he won, t speak to me and just tells me to go away .
I just don, t understand why asking him to cook for me is such a problem .
just had my first cigarette in 5 weeks and feeling even more pissed off that I have let my self down in not smoking .

Is your hubby depressed? What's the real reason why he can't make a simple beans on toast for you?

I think he is depressed ! He never got over losing our old dog , but we have a new pup now and that seemed to be helping but he can, t seem to take any criticism and makes out its all my fault .... he always says I have a real chip on my shoulder which I think is bullshit and my daughter says its him thats the problem not me .
she says she loves him but could never put up with him like I do :(
Trouble is he can see no wrong in himself where I can admit I am not perfect .