how often do NORMAL couples have sex?

[tyedye]

Im not in a happy relationship-my dp says its because we dont have enough sex?!

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no such thing as 'normal', IMO.

the best is when two people w/similar sex drives are together.

In a very happy, "normal" relationship and once a week, very rarely twice is more than enough for me thank you !

DH and I go through spates when we don't have sex for weeks and then a good run when it's several times a week. Now we've got contraception well and truly sorted out and the kids sleep well we are more relaxed.

my dh complains re lack of sex. sex drive took a vertical free fall when i became preg with ds1 unfortunatley that was a few week after we were maried. it has never really recovered (enough to have ds2 though!) ds2 now 16 weeks. probably in the last year maybe 10 times. more he goes on the more i switch off. Though did have a notion the other night and errr broke the dining room table mega

soooo my dh lied to me, he reckons we don't do it enough, apparantly everyone is at it, all day, everday, everywhere. What they do with their children whilst locked in passonate throws he wont say.... ermm every other day and dp is of the opinion it's not enough cos normal people do it more....riiiiight.

Think I shall print this thread off and show him what the normal rate is hmph.

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you don't tyedye, only if you want to.....I'm sorry I was flippant in my earlier post it can be horrible if you feel you're being forced....

I would count myself as being one of those in a "normal" relationship.

dh works nights, I work 3 evenings, we have 5 kids between the ages of 18 months and 14 years old, a cat and 3 gerbils, various after school and evening activities to sort out and a hundred and one other essential things that add to the family stresses and strains.

We can sometimes go nearly 2 weeks without having the time or inclination for sex but then again if dh is off and I haven't got the decorators in then it could be every day for a few days. But if either of us is a bit peed off by the other one it definitely dampens the libido levels in both of us; when things are harmonious we are all over each other, not just with sex at the end of it but kisses, cuddles and petting etc.

I realise this is probably quite a lot by some standards but I would say you certainly have to be happy with and happy about the person you are with to want to have sex with them.

Sorry, don't know why i felt the urge to mention my cat and gerbils when descibing my sex life!

Before ds about 6 times a week

After ds (10 months) twice a week

What the flying cods cahooners is nomal????????

I dunno, once a week i guess.

If I go for a week without it I'm not happy. But normal is whatever feels right for you.

Erm...sometimes only once a month We are both lazy bastards though!

does breastfeeding lessen you libido? Or is it just the whole new baby, night feeds thig that makes you less gagging for it?

its great after a break though isn't it

tyedye, you don't have to have sex if you don't feel like it. and i'm the same - if i'm stressed or unhappy, i don't want it. your dp is trying to shift the blame firmly onto you. i have to be in a loving relationship without even a whiff of a threat of a partner with a temper before i'd feel comfortable. the way you feel is totally normal.

why does cuddling,kissing always have to led to sex.

Well I don't know about the men being woken up with BJs but my dh wakes me with a TJ (tongue job) pretty often...more than twice a week if I'm lucky!

I don't know what normal is.. but we have a healthy sexual relationship we enjoy making love it's something that feels good, fun & it's free if we're not interrupted we could do it at least 4 times a week if things are cool between us more...I find it relieves my stress and if you don't use it you might lose it!!

But other posters are right.. if you are not happy you wont want to.

I have to agree that if you are not happy for other reasons then sex is going to take a back seat. You cant be expected to make love with someone you are not feeling very loving about, IME!
I think we are a 'normal' couple with 3 kids of 6 and under. We probably do it about 2ce a week, but that is an average, sometimes more and sometimes less. But we are probably never more than a week without it.

when dd was a baby & i was breastfeeding quite frequently, and dd was clingy too, i didn't have any physical space to myself whatsoever, so sex was the last thing on my mind.
didn't mind the odd cuddle though

I'd say average once a week but that doesn't mean it happens once a week. high days and holidays every day then we could go for 2 weeks or more and not get round to it.

I was pondering today - if someone asked me to choose between giving up sex or giving up my single glass of wine most evenings I sadly think the wine would win sp perhaps I don't qualify for normal.

About 1-2 times a week. GODS i MISS saturday morning sex!!!!

well there you go, boyf is only over about twice a week, then take off times i'm on my period, and we would have to be doing it every time he was here to make it 1-2 times a week, and that's far too much pressure!

twice a week?Less if I hate him(PMT)more if he does what I want(DIY)