Hi all,
I've a long one, but I'll keep it short and try not to drip feed.
I've been seeing my bf for nearly 6 months. We've known eachother for years. I have a child with my ex who cheated on me.
From day one bf and I]ve had an understanding where we can look at phones if we want. I've nothing to hide and neither did he.
When we starting dating beg of this year, I was in another country (I moved back over 4 months ago) This was never a problem we agreed we were solely seeing eachother and that was that.
So Friday night just gone we were in the pub getting drunk and he was telling me about this girl who he is mates with as she used to run the local football team he played for. (I've never met this girl, but for some reason I've never liked the look of her)was messaging him the night before.
So I read the messages on fb nothing too much then I decided to scroll back to April this year where my bf is telling her he would have put his hand up her top she replies:
You wouldn't have had the opportunity lol xx
him:If we were drunk in bed? you're mean xx
her:no I'm not xx
him: you are babe xx
Then, another message he is saying to her: I know and you still to this day ain't stayed in the same bed as me haha
Her: That's coz you choose the floor.
him:lol I didn't choose I didn't think you would let me in xx
her: You didn't ask! I weren't offering lol xx
him cause you would have said no xx
Her: I wouldn't I'm not that mean xx
Now he was dating me when all this conversations were going on.
He reckons it's all banter and putting his hand down her top is what all the lads say at football... I'm far from stupid, but I'm torn because my best mate thinks I'm overeacting and should get over it and move on.
Can anyone help me as I'm not sure what to do. Sorry for the long post.