So fed up with doing All the chores!!!

[CrazyBabies]

Hi there, I need to rant. I am just fed up with being the only one to tidy, clean, shop, feed cats,wash clothes dry and put away, and so on. Every fecking morning I go downstairs and I start every day by tidying up the kitchen/ family room. Even if I leave it tidy in the evening, family will have left all there crap out etc. I am usually one of the first to go to bed.
Been with dh for 20 years, whom I do love lots, he is hard working- runs a business., so pretty busy.
But I run a childminding business so lots of kids coming and going and I need to have the place tidy and clean each day.
I look after my 3 ds, two have special needs, and my oldest is a teenage dad, so have my lovely grandson several days a week and his fiancé.
Hav asked and asked, tried leaving mess for others to sort.
Nothing works. So upset this morning- trying to come off antidepressants- nearly done it, but feel all my emotions creeping up on me, tearful, and just blooming fed up.
Sorry this is so long. Please b kind.
Can b so content with my life.
Dh has asked me what's wrong this morning- why doesn't he know. It's so bloody obvious! Exhausted with asking for help.

I know the feeling of banging your head against the housework wall, it's really soul-destroying and exhausting.

I'm yet to find a strategy that works too. My only suggestion is to make them all contribute to paying a cleaner if that's at all realistic. Needn't be massively expensive. £20 a week would get some of the bigger chores done eg floors and ironing

Snap

We haven't been together anywhere near as long as you though but we also have 3dc. He sometimes cooks. That's about it tbh

Past couple of weeks I've been having a go and asking for help but to no avail!

As for a cleaner I would feel like I had to clean before I let them in lol

Make a chore list. Kids don't only get full pocket money if they don't clean up.
As for DH he isn't a mind reader maybe he doesn't know just how upset you are and he may be so used to you 'nagging' (not saying you are but this is how he might see it) that he doesn't pay any attention. Have a proper sit down not angry chat with him. Make some jobs solely his, for example, taking out the bins and doing the dishwasher. Then there is no confusion about who's responsibility it is.
I know how upsetting it can be to be on a constant carousel of tidying and then it's a mess again in 2 mins. It's not on.

As for a cleaner I would feel like I had to clean before I let them in lol only if you are really determined to be a martyr. FFS you'd be paying your hard-earned cash for a cleaner - why on earth would you do the job as well yourself?

Ashamed of the mess I suppose!