I been married for 11 years, been unhappy for a few years but kept going in the hope that things would get better(all sorts of reasons inc ea, some dv, complete lack of help and support from h both literally and emotionally, he spent all his time on computer or watching tv) - they didnt, despite me trying and asking and suggesting, however this was seen as me moaning, sqwarking or lecturing. I told him how rubbish I thought things had got, I told him our marriage was in trouble but on one occasion he just laughed at me and went back to playing on the computer. His phrase was, apparently, 'if in doubt do nothing'. I tried to talk to him a few times before I made the final decision, he got upset on one occasion and suggested counselling but never actually did anything about anything until he received the petition, then he soon moved, my goodness, he threw all sorts of threats at me, be came even more verbally abusive and nasty(he said some really spiteful things to me)and got busy ensuring i would receive nothing. I left after an incident of dv and called the police:( I just wondered if anyone else adopts or understands the attitude of doing nothing in the hope it will go away? I appreciate we all have different ways of dealing with things but to me if something isn't quite right-from a leaking tap to a marriage-it's not going to get better unless you fix or address it, however hard that may be. Any advice much appreciated, thanks for reading