scared at becoming a single mum and not finding a new partner

[misssounsure]

My partner and I have been together for 5 years and have an 18 month old child. We've agreed to split as things haven't been working for a long time and we're both exhausted from trying.

I'm 32 and am what I would describe as "average" looking (I'm realistic!) I know no one can predict the future but my dream is to meet my Mr Right and have a happy family with more children.

I feel like time is running out for me to meet someone and have more children but at the same time I don't want to rush and end up with Mr Wrong (again!)

Has anyone else been in a similar situation and now is happy with a new partner and children?

I'm a guy, so i'm not the best person here to answer your fears, but I didn't want to leave your thread hanging without a response.

Meeting someone with a young child wouldn't bother me. In some ways it is easier when the child is v young. And really nice that you are as young as you are. You still have plenty of time.

Once you are in your 30s I think that a good personality becomes ever more important than the looks themselves.

Good luck. The fact that you are even thinking about it is a good sign.

X

Thanks bouncy again x

I wish I had had the courage to leave when my child was that age. Waiting just made it worse.Get on to the online dating, just have your idiot radar turned on. Don't hide that you have a young child. It will act as a filter to get rid of idiots, and for the right type of guy it will even be attractive. X

How long have you been separated for OP? Surely you want and need some time on your own?

Yes Mexicanhat I will need some time on my own first, a good year or so I'm thinking I just want to know there is hope and that I won't necessarily end up 40 , still single and no happy family, more children (I'm not saying you can be 40, single and happy!) I just personally would like to have a new relationship in the future, be happy and more children. I'm just scared!!

The important thing is not to get scared & rush into another relationship with the first guy who seems good enough. I think time on your own is important. I remarried & had a baby at 41 so 32 is still really young. Plenty of time to wait for the right person.

I understand OP. I separated from my H last year, am in my mid-40's and have 2 DC. I am very happy with my life at the moment and can't imagine wanting anyone else anytime soon tbh.

You are still so young. You have plenty of time. I know how scary it is, go out and make new friends, maybe a new hobby, something that you've always wanted to do. Good Luck.

Thanks mexicanhat x

themidwife.. that is so reassuring to know, thank you. That's so lovely that you had a baby at 41... I'm paranoid my fertility is declining already! I guess I just need to relax a bit but I just feel like the years are rolling round, flying by! :-( Can I ask when you met your husband? Was it late 30's? and did it take long to conceive? (sorry for the personal Q's!.. please ignore if you like! I'm just really worried about these things but I know I need to try to relax

We met when I was 39 & got married & had a baby when I was 41. It took 2 cycles to conceive. Mind you I'm very fertile & had 3 other children already.

Aww themidwife that is so lovely! :-) Are you really a midwife btw? You've given me some hope :-) x

Yes I am! Please don't rush into anything - there's lots of time!

Aww thanks! Ok I'll relax a little! That's how I got into the mess I'm currently in!! I was only 28!! But could see 30 looming, all my friends were settled down and I panicked! Very much regret it!! But hey ho, will learn from mistakes x