Finding proof about another affair my cheating husband's been having

[mumdaughter29]

Hi 23 days i found out that my husband of 22 years has been having an affair with a married woman with 2 kids. After confronting him about this i threw him out and he has been staying with his parents. He has called in a few times to see our 3 teenage children but they don't want to see or talk to him as he is showing no remorse in the past 3 weeks. He says it was my nagging him about his drinking that is to blame for the end of our marriage. Well the day i was pouring my heart out to him and he was declaring he was so sorry for hurting the kids,me,his parents and ruining her marriage, He was getting e-mails from another of his clients ( another married woman) from the gym! He hasn't realised that his e-mails from her on facebook have been coming to the family computer and i have seen these and read them and now printed them off. e.g emotions showing kissing lips and love struck, and written to him 'then please don't leave me at 12.36am on friday night and 'have you met someone else?' at 12.41 am on friday night too. Then on tuesday night at 11.53pm ' exactly a year ago you came to see me......'
Please tell me i am not imagining this and does this seem to be another affair? He taught this bitch to drive in 2009-2010 and now has become a trainer and is her personal trainer. What should i do about this affair? Please advise me...

1. Make copies or find all important documents (financial etc) in case you need it for legal purposes.

1. Down load all facebook messages, print & keep in a safe place. Dont tell him you have seen them.

1. Get legal advice, the first 30 mins with a solicitor is free. Find out what your options are.

1. Do a financial review, do you have any debts/loans and could you afford to take on house & bills if you decided to split?

1. See how much you will get in tax credits/benefits on the HMRC website if you decided to go it alone.

.... And however tempting it may be, DON'T tell him you know. Keep it up your sleeve for now, but as advised above, take copies, and show them to your solicitor when you get one.

wow. you poor thing you must be reeling. But keep your knowledge powder dry..

That's horrible, OP. Really sorry. What an arse he is. And good for you for kicking him out.

And yes, those latest messages look like he's having another affair. Don't say anything yet, just keep printing out the evidence.

I know i'm trying very hard to not blurt it out and it's killing me! But i have to agree that i need to keep quiet until i am ready to use it. So nobody thinks i am imagining that it's another affair and may well have started last year then?

No, I have just read your other thread. He obviously thinks he's a young Arnold Schwarzeneger. Even if he hadn't cheated, so what. He told you (referring to you) that he would quote never fuck a fat women

You "nagged" him about his drinking, so [its] all your fault. What is all your fault? say yes, yes, it's all my fault.... now what is it?!?! That sounds like an admission to me

say nothing and just keep printing his emails.

Yep have them printed off and have hidden them in my twin daughters bedroom so he will never find them there! Roll on the day when i can wipe that smug look off his saggy,weather beaten face! he is so toned in the body but looks shit in the face!

And not even a young Arnie....he is nearly 45...having his mid-life crisis and getting his ego stroked by desperate housewives of the gym....if only they knew what he is really like.