Cant get a hard on-Sorry for this term.

[mum2oliver]

Feel really crap as dp has never had this problem before.Im sure its to do with me.Not sure what to say to him.The last time we did it was 2 weeks ago and we havent spoken about it or tried again since!!!Any advice?

Hi. I know exactly what this feels like, but it has nothing to do with you. These things just seem to happen.

My dh went through this a couple of years ago. It just suddenly stopped working, and he refused to talk about it - or even see the doctor. I went and spoke to the nurse about this and she advised me to try and explain to him that this can just happen. I sat down and told him about what I had found out, and I got him to practice on his own for a little while, and see if he gets hard. Then, once he was comfortable again, we took things a step at a time, until we were back having sex again.

I hope this has helped. Good luck xx

I would say that this is likely to be a temporary problem. It's something that most men apparently go through at some point or other in their lives. Honestly - it's not to do with you. Keep in touch with each other - lots of hand holding and cuddles etc - things should return to normal given time. A chat with his GP might help if he can face it - it's something the GP will have heard many times before.

dont mention it just yet. try again but when you are both relaxed and comfy.
it is probably a one off because he was tired or something but men are a bit terrified of things like this and wil often worry themselves into causing it to happen again because they think about it so much.

make the first move when you are both comfortable and if he says no, dont push it. we dont like being pressured into it and nor do men....wait till he's ready