Impotence - anyone any experience?

[blueseavannah]

Have been with my DH for the best part of a decade, we have 2 dc.

We have pretty much never been able to have sex without impotence drugs. DH has had this issue since, well, since forever.

Currently we pay for private drugs but it costs a fortune and, probably unsurprisingly, our sex life dwindled to pretty much nothing once we added the complications that come with a toddler and newborn/sleepless night/post pregnancy body issues etc etc.

Anyway, we're coming out of the other side of the toddler and baby days and we both finally seem to have a sex drive. But the issue remains. The tablets are so expensive and take time to work so there really is no spontaneous sex.

DH has been to the Dr a couple of times about it in the past and basically been told that there is nothing the NHS can do. Anyway, he is going back to the Dr again to try to get some answers/help.

I'm not posting to ask for practical suggestions (although all are welcome) but more, just to ask is there anyone else in this situation?

I've just come off some long term contraception that was killing my sex drive, feel good about myself and my DH at the moment, but our sex life is just so screwed by this whole thing (DH doesn't know that I feel like this, btw, I have only ever been supportive and positive).

I guess I just wondered if there was anyone else in my situation and how you deal with it?

Just feel :(

anyone?

Not much experience. Have worked with a charity that was involved in advising people with ED. GP should not fob you off. There are drugs you can have on the NHS - although probably not as frequently as you'd like.

Might be worth contacting Sexual Advice Association

Good luck

Do you think it is physical or psycological? How old is he? You shouldnt be fobbed off as it coukd suggest other problems.

My ex had ED. It restriced a lot of things as I couldnt go on top and he wouldnt orgasm via oral tmi but we made it work.

When we had sex he would hold the base of his penis or use a cock ring. It didn't get fully hard but would be enough for PIV and we would both orgasm like this and after a while and a lot of practice it started to improve.

I would suggest playing more or trying sex foreplay etc at least twice a week. It wont solve the problem but youse should find ways to make it work.

Good luck.