Shy women behaviour in their 30's?

[MadeMan]

This sounds like such a teenager question, but I just wanted to know if women can still be really shy when they are older around men they like.

If so, then what would be her possible signs of interest?

Could I scare off a shy woman if I asked her out too soon?

Yes, they can be shy, at any age! If I were you, I would start off with some non-personal conversation and go from there; shy people quite often don't like talking about themselves,

Go for it!

Not if you ask her out.
If she's shy she is perhaps less likely to give off signs, but I don't see why she'd be scared if you are nice to her.

I was very shy, I didn't have my first kiss till my 30s and I appreciated going slow , we had non official dates till I think he got a bit Fed up so basically went for it , a bit much meeting all his mates on our first proper date lol

Just be patient and nice

I'm in my late 30s and I'm still really shy around men I like!

I do do little arm touches and the smiling and all that stuff, but I don't openly flirt.

I'm rubbish at it!!

But if someone was interested in me and I liked them, it wouldn't put me off if they asked me out.

Just do it

I'm that age, really shy around men I like but if I like a man I find it hard to stop smiling at him.

Yes. I get this, where I'm so embarrassed that I like someone that I can barely look at them/talk to them, when previously I've found them really easy to talk to before realising I had a crush on them.

Thanks for the replies so far.

This woman seems happy enough to talk to me, but doesn't really make any eye contact which is a bit weird somehow; she sort of looks 'around me' if that makes sense.

For example, the other day we were outside chatting in a group and she was standing beside me as I was talking to someone else and I turned to look at her thinking she was staring at me, but she was looking behind my head and then she changed to staring in front of my head; not actually at me though.

This is what I mean by no eye contact, she always seems to be looking just to either side of my face, or over my shoulder as though there's a fight or something going on in the background, but she'll happily stand there and talk to me.

Bit odd really because people generally make eye contact when talking (even strangers) and I talk to a lot of different people in my job.

Shy people don't

In fact, it's one of the tricks that we use - looking just beyond someone, but not directly making eye contact with them.

Do you think she likes you

How do you know her?

Do you have the sort of relationship with her where you could ask her out?

That's interesting FolkGirl about looking "just beyond someone" if you're shy; it pretty much sums up what this woman is doing when we talk together.

I'm not really sure if she likes me, I know her through work (always seems to be the way) and it's only recently that I've started thinking about her (and noticed that she doesn't look at me very often).

I don't think I'd feel confident enough about getting a positive answer at the moment if I asked her out, still not entirely convinced that she'd want to come out with me.

I'm shy and 35 and I struggle to make eye contact if I like someone! I also blush when they are talking to me. :o

Autistic people (like me) struggle to make eye contact and will often look at you in a "nearly but not quite" type of way.

Just a thought :)