First holy communion with no godparents

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I hope this is the right place to put this . Dd has just started primary 4 so she is starting her preparations for her first holy communion which she will make next spring .

Part of the preparation is learning about baptism and what is means and they will talk about their own baptisms . I chose two relatives to be DDs godparents . When dd was 4 our families had a falling out which ended up in a family divide and we haven't spoken (despite numerous attempts by me) for 4 years . As it turns out these relatives (one in particular) are not very nice people its funny how you suddenly see people for who they really are .

Anyway I've tried to keep dd out of it as much as I can but they completely cut her out their life they walk by her in the street , at the school gates etc .

Sorry this ended up a whole story if your still reading my worry is - what do I tell her about her godparents when she asks ? She is going to have to fill in a booklet "my baptism" and take in pictures of the day etc . I am really dreading the questions she is so sensitive I really don't know what to tell her .

I didn't fall out with DS's godparents, but we moved abroad & they're not in our lives anymore. I just told him that his godparents were X & Y, they were close friends but we don't see them anymore. That was enough for him, without needing to go into big explanations.

What hurricane said - you don't need to go into detail. There with be other kids there who don't know their godparents.

The thing is though the live right next to us and she was 4 so she does remember them . When I tell her who they are she will start asking me why we don't see them anymore and why they won't be coming to her communion day .

Maryz! I really want to allocate new godparents to dd but thought that might be a bit dramatic fraudulent because they technically wouldn't be iyswim

can you not talk to the priest about it? He may be able to bless another set of godparents, as it were.

One of our choices has since turned out to be somewhat questionable too, which we didn't see coming. Disreputable uncle indeed!

I think it would be great to nominate new godparents - maybe with the blessing of your priest. I'm CofE not Catholic, but I "took on" an extra godson when he was about 5 because his original godparents were no longer around. Although we all know I wasn't one of the original ones, none of us think about it now - he'll be 18 in a few months.

If priest asks why you can say that because of a family disagreement they (not you) have chosen to distance themselves from DD. I'm sure it'll be fine.

With DD, just keep it simple and say that it's a bit sad, but they are busy with their lives / have different priorities now and that these things happen in life sometimes.

oh fgs
get someone else to pretend to have been her godparents

DS made his communion last year. The godparents - with whom we are on excellent terms - played no role. Barely mentioned. If I were you I'd start worrying about veils v no veils instead. Much more likely to be an issue!

veils fgs on kids

Veils and tiaaaaraaaaas

I think I might speak to our priest about it and see what he thinks . We could just stay behind after mass one day and just do it quick it doesn't need to be a big deal or anything .