Just that really, noticed a thread on here about how often one sees their parents. Even when the relationships aren't great, general consesus seems to be at least 4 times a year!
I don't get on with my PILs, or rather they don't get on with me, have posted before about them. Didn't even say hello to me first time we met in their own house, went downhill from there. DP has admitted to me they were equally as frosty to his previous GF's. Relationship over 6 years is tense with them, but non confrontational in recent years. MIL is massively passive aggresive, regularly makes digs at how we run our house, where we've chosen to live, our expenditures etc.
Long story short I have seen them once so far this year and although it was bearable the usual digs came about and generally making me feel unwelcome in their home. I have invited them to ours all year but they wont'/can't be bothered as MIL doesn't like where we live! Regardless of the fact her DS lives there with me!
We're just about to tell them that my DP won't be going home for x mas/ taking me to join him ( I prefer x mas at my own parents anyway). We shall be hosting at our flat-first time ever and I'm quite excited. They are welcome to choose a day to join us and I will do the entertaining. they can stay overnight. (They don't live more than 2 hours away). This won't go down well.
I'm reluctant to make more effort now tbh, my stress levels are better without it. Should I feel guilty? I do a little, but why won't they make the effort to visit us throughout the year.