Difference here being i dont help matters by being a highly strong partner.
Hope someone can help.
Firstly im very happy with dp,we hsve been togethrr many yrs snd have 4 dc's.get on well, he is a good decent bloke who has the same morals as i do. However he can be very serious whereas im tge opposite. He can put a dampener on fun stuff with his serious face,tho he denies this.
Another issue is,though again he would deny,is i feel he finds it difficult just to chill out and 'loosen' up when we do stuff as a family. He will often kill the moment when we sre out for the dsy, for example by suggesting its time to leave or put dc to bed. Im all for rules and generally we have good routines.
NYWAY, we have recently had a great family hol and reasonably stress free despite youngest dc quite prone tantrums on s regular basis. Now the problem is we have just had a mini break, a abreak he wasnt keen on as he feels hes done his family bit and didnt want to waste money listening tk kids arguing and dc havin a million tantrums. It was somrthing ibwanted ti do though
Well first day in dc4 had major hissy fit in public followed by dp saying ' i told u so' . 'Shoukdnt have come etc .i got all defensive abd we had major row in front of dc's which admitedly i woukdnt drop. He then basicaly blanked me for our time there.i was totally distracted eith the children then which i now feel guilty for. I took it personally as he k ew how much i wanted to go in the first place. I think he believes we should keep stressful activities to a minimum whsy the dcs are little. Again i disagree as in that case we will be waiting yrs begore our holidays are stress free.
I cant bear to speak to him now and feel awfuk for the dcs and i so want to take them away on my own to counteract the crap break they have just had.
Btw im a regular buy namechanged as although mumsnet gives fab advice its also can give a lot of flack!
How do i handle this?
Excuse typos- on phone.