Was this completely passive aggressive or am I overreacting?

[Wannabuyawatch]

I have been married to DH for 8 years and we have 2 DSs and one on the way. In general he is a loving and loyal husband but has his ups and downs. I feel that lately he is becoming more and more controlling and passive aggressive. He has a real habit of stonewalling - getting cross about something and then refusing to speak to me for several days.
He says it is just so I will leave him alone and for him to calm down, but I feel it is a form of control and punishment. I tend to go after him too much and try and force a resolution. I realise this is a big mistake, and if I give him some space, it usually helps.
Yesterday, my SIL and her daughter were visiting us and we were all sitting in the kitchen chatting. Completely and utterly out of the blue he started refusing to answer me. Just literally ignored everything I was saying for about 15 minutes. Spoke to everyone else apart from me.
I quickly got very wound up and shouty - saying "Where on earth has this come from"? "Why won´t you speak to me??" and felt very stupid in front of his family. It was just bizarre.
I stomped off and then came back in floods of tears, and making rather a scene in front of his family.
He responded by talking to me as if I was the craziest person on earth. What was my problem, I was totally out of control, he was so embarrassed by me etc.
I just found this really psychotic and deliberately provocative, he seems to intimate that it was all a bit of a joke.
Any ideas?

But do you know why do you end up desperately seeking his attention and tryingto get him to reply?
If DH did this i would be incredulous and then mock him for being a child so it wouldn't work.

What has he done to get you to the point where you are begging for attention?

This is horribly manipulative behaviour.

He stops talking to you. So, simply by asking what's wrong, you are the supplicant. He is already in charge and you are already on the defensive.

People who do this should always always be ignored. Pretend nothing is wrong. Carry on like you haven't even noticed. Trust me, it keeps you in the driving seat.

If they have a problem, let them be a big grown-up and express it like a big grown-up.

You can then discuss it like, yup, grown-ups.

I'm going to throw another perspective in here.

Sometimes when I am really peed off at him, for whatever reason right or wrong, I refuse totalk to my DH.

I don't do it to punish him. I do it because if I open my mouth I cannot trust myself as to what comes out.

I need left alone untili trust myself to be able to have a rational conversation about it.

Should I get into a grand battle with him where I say thing I would regret and can't take back? Or should I keep silent?

Could your DH be the same?

do you love him? feeling needy is another matter.... you need to put yourself back in the driving seat.

I couldn't tolerate that. I certainly couldn't be in a relationship with someone who behaved like that. Pathetic.

No you are not overreacting. This is horrible behaviour. Take control of the situation by pointing it out in the moment (not later) and tell him exactly how it makes you feel. It's not being needy to say "You are ignoring me and I find that really hurtful."

Omg! How utterly awful ! I would be livid with him . What a stupid spoilt child he is , three years old I would say . Stuff him go out and buy something nice with his money , new shoes he he , red ones that remind you everytime that his behaviour costs him :)