why am i thinking about rhis man all the time? what does it mean?

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My marriage ended 18 months ago, after 10 years. X is alcoholic and EA, it was a stressful marriage. We have 2 young children. I have no intention of having another relationship again ever. I don't need one, i don't want one. Im also resolved that my dc wont have a stepdad or any of the step relations or half people that come with it. No blended families.

I cant stop thinking about this man that i have been working with. I don't consciously fancy hum, he isn't even my type. Hes nice to spend time with is all really. But he is in my head ALL the time. I keep having little day dreams

Workplace crush, no biggie, somewhere safe to put all your emotions and fantasies, especially during a stressful time. Just keep it to yourself and this is harmless.

But, i don't fancy him

Gah, im so romantically/emotionally dead, i cant even recognise a crush!

If he's an average bloke who just seems nice, he's probably just become the subconscious embodiment of what you hoped you'd have with your X - Mr steady, reliable family man. His sex appeal is neither here nor there, since I'm guessing the drama with your X often meant the sex was fabulous until it reached a stage where his drinking ruined everything.

It will pass with time. Well done for getting out of such a destructive marriage and making a better life for yourself and your DC.

Thank you dahlen

yes, maybe that is it! He is very loving with his children. It is something i have noticed