DH is an abusive fuckwit. We have a new baby (9) weeks, and I have an 8 year old DSD who lives with us full time.
This is just a snapshot in time, bear in mind.
Today, I have had a horrendous stomach bug, so been in bed most of day alternating between being sick etc.
He has been left to mind children.
This has consisted of him sitting in the nursery, watching films on the IPAD, whilst 8 yr old DSD watches the baby.
He has been verbally abusive to me all day, in front of children. Calling me a 'fucking matyr', telling me 'don't fucking tell me what to do with my child you fucking arsehole' trying to tell me he does all the childcare (he doesn't)
Today I made an excecutive decision to stay out of the way, I don't want children getting bug, and I feel like shit, why shouldn't I expect their father to look after them ffs?
I have heard DS crying loads. DH's default positition is to feed him. not cuddle him etc. Then he gets annoyed and says 'you've messed up his fucking routine, he keeps crying to be fed'.
He does nothing around the house, at all. He takes his top off and leaves it on the floor ibn the lounge, shoes, socks and sometimes trousers every single day. I can count on one hand the amount of times he has done the washing up since moving in in March. He has never done the laundry.
When I called him on this, he tried to tell me that he does half. HALF! he lives on another planet.
I love him, but I am sinking into depression and I know that I can't live like this. I don't want my children to grow up like this.
I am on maternity leave and now only on SMP so don't know what my rights are. I can't afford my own place although will be able to when I go back to work.
I don't want to just up and leave my DSD here, I have brought her up, it would be like her mother leaving her, but I don't have rights to take her do I?
Please help, I'm devestated and feel so alone.