DP just left

[NoBloodyMore]

Just need to vent really, DP has just left. I asked him to as we need some space and he needs to decide if he wants to be with me & the kids.

The final straw was him going out with his friends last night & rolling in at 5.15 am when we were supposed to be going out with the kids & meeting friends today.

This happens every time he goes out, he can't just have 1 or 2 drinks he has to get steaming drunk to the stage he can't remember anything, being sick etc. all his friends are younger & have no DC so he gets resentful about the lack of money, lack of nights out.

It's hard to describe it all as its no one big thing more just a build up of things over the last couple of years coming to a head.

Can't decide if I'm relieved he's gone, terrified of being on my own for the first time in 6 years (well if 3 kids count as me being on my own).

I'm also feeling crap about another possibly failed relationship after separating from DS1s dad 7 years ago.

I suppose I'm probably hoping this is enough to shock him into sorting things out, although the fact I heard him telling his dad it's no big deal & he packed his ps3 he prob thinks its just a nice break.

Thanks for reading my mammoth moan!

I'm also feeling crap about another possibly failed relationship after separating from DS1s dad 7 years ago.
No! No no no no no!
You are failing yourself and your children if you stay in an unhappy, soul-crushing, dismal relationship that drags you down.

Thanks, oh I know I deserve better than this and I'll be fine, I'm not the emotional type so I shan't be falling to pieces or begging him to come back.

I'm just sad really that it all started out so well, we got on fantastic and after 6 years & 2 DC we can't "save" things but I refuse to have him taking the piss, as much as I don't like the stigma of 2 failed relationships I wouldn't stay in a crap relationship and certainly wouldn't want the kids growing up with us arguing and bickering daily.

NoBloodyMore
You are describing my life!

My xh couldn't stop after the first drink either and eventually ended up in hospital with pancreatitis. That just slowed him down..and he returned to his drinking marathons.

My biggest regret is that I didn't do what you have done.

By bitching but basically accepting his drinking he kept on and on and on. Eventually he was coming home as the DC were getting up I've lost count of the number of times he was hungover at important events after going out for "a couple"

He left 6 months ago (saying he couldn't deal with my nagging anymore!) and while it is hard sometimes, my DC and I are ok. Xh has moved into a flat and has had to curtail his drinking to meet his bills

Good luck and make the decision about your future that YOU are happy with x

I think with the bit at the end (no big deal / packing the PS3) I would be seeing this as a permanent break. You already have 3 children to deal with, without having to worry about a fourth. Let him go. His friends will soon grow up and settle down and he'll be that old, pervy guy out and about, the one all the younger girls laugh at.