Am I they crazy one?

[Flutterbys1210]

My partner seems to take pleasure in telling me this!
He works away for long periods at a time needs a week to get used to being part of a family when he comes back I work full time and look after the kids yet he does so much for me.
We have no form of relationship he constantly drags me down says I control him let him have no life and I make him hit me!
I took an overdose and ended up in hospital not my proudest moment he uses this time and time again he makes me wish I was dead its the thought of leaving my children that stops me.
He says he's going to have the children taken off me because I'm mental and need sectioning I actually do feel like I have no grip on reality and just spend my days in tears I know this isn't love if I don't say I love him it causes another fight.
I feel so lost an alone like I have no where to turn

You are not crazy, he is. You need to get away from this man and quickly. There will be plenty of l adies along soon with lots of great advice on getting away from this kind of relationship. Hold on and keep posting

Definitely not crazy but you will be if you don't get out. Phone womens aid.

Get in touch with women's aid today. You need to remove yourself and your children from this abuse immediately. If you can't do it for yourself then do it for your poor children.

You are not crazy, he is putting it into your head to brainwash you.
He is crazy, and abusive, phone Women's Aid and get out of this relationship as soon as possible.
It will only get worse, men like this never change.

You are not crazy. Listen to the good advice you'll get in this thread. Please.

He is abusive. You must contact Womens Aid. You will feel so much better without this person around.

Be realistic. He thinks you are capable of caring for the children when he's not there, doesn't he? He is a dangerous man and you need to get away from him. When you say he works away, is he on the rigs or in the army? How long is he away at a time? How long is he home for now?

I think you should phone WA. Can you do that without him knowing?

Please please leave this bastard before he completely breaks you and damages your children. I was in a similar position although yours sounds worse than mine. I did eventually find the strength to kick him out. I'm still in the family home with the children and he pays maintenance. So you won't necessarily lose everything like you fear. He can't just take your children away from you. You're not mentally ill. What problems you have are caused by living with this man. Once he's gone you will feel free and far more stable. There are lots of agencies out there who can help you to make this happen. In my town, there's a one-stop-shop once a week where you can see lawyers, counsellers, citizens advice, victim support etc all in one place. Maybe there's something like they where you live.
Good luck to you and fingers crossed you get to cut this poisonous man out of your life sooner rather than later.

Thank you for your replies I know I have to get rid of him it's just makes me wobble when he says all of this is down to be and if I was normal this wouldn't happen

Ok Op, what are you going to do?

I tried to do the same last month. didn't end up in hospital I just went to bed and woke up the next morning. He said me being crazy made him treat me with no respect. Since he moved out 2 weeks ago a weight has lifted and I've never felt happier. Coincidence? I think not. I think you may find exactly the same would happen to you if you just make that step.

It is not normal to hit another person.

It is not normal to make another person feel like they're crazy.

It is not normal to drive another person to suicide.

It is normal to be scared and doubt yourself when someone acts like this towards you.

The police will help, call 101 and get the violence logged. He can accuse you of craziness all he wants, but evidence of violence will keep your children away from him and with you