Hi all
Some of you may have read about me already but for those who haven't I am a transsexual and going through transition to female? I live full time as Sarah and have done for nearly 3 years now.
I started going out with my boyfriend several months ago (known him for nearly two years) and have got to know his family. They have all been very welcoming especially his sister who I see regularly and who does my hair!
His mum (who is very close to her son) has been on the whole very welcoming although there has been some rather embarassing conversations over the months, namely the ones about intimacy!
I know it sounds a bit over the top but him and I have been chatting about perhaps taking things further next year and tying the knot In a civil ceremony. This suits me perfectly because I am an atheist so have no desire to set foot in a church and also of course my circumstances dictate a civil ceremony.
This doesn't sit very well with his mum though who wants the big white event for his only son and I totally get that. Whilst we haven't broached the subject of our long term plans with her she is one of these people that talks about the prospect of weddings and when she does we share a sideways glance!
I want to bring up the subject of how we might do things but am scared to. Part of me thinks leave it to him but part of me thinks I would like to chat to her. We have developed a friendship and think me talking to her would be more appropriate that him doing it.
I am scared because I feel I may have stolen this dream she has of a big white wedding and all the trimmings but even if we were to do a church wedding I would no way want all the naff things that go with it! I would probably go for a shocking red dress or something!
Any thoughts or advise would be appreciated