right ladies. would love some advice about my dm. this might be a bit long so apologies in advance.
right, so currently 38+4 wks pg. moved 70 miles away (just over an hour away from my folks) to move in with my dp. reasons i moved to him being that he is s/employed and business established there and that he already has a mortgage on a house which is currently being worked on though almost ready to move in, which will be start of this week coming.) also, the city i live in i would never want to raise children in. too much silly nonsense re protestants/catholics that i have absolutely no time for!
as house is not ready to move in i have been staying with my dp at his parents house the last 4-5 wks. dm has gotten rather sniffy about it, to the point my own best friend had to jump to my defence when she wanted to kick off.
she has convinced herself that this now a competition about who will get to see the new gc the mostest and be bestest granny and that she will never get to see her gc. this is total nonsense, of course we will be visiting them and them us! (i have already tried to have a convo about it with her) she is basically jealous that im staying at his parents and not with her. ive tried to explain that at this stage of pg i cant be too far from dp or the hospital im booked in to give birth and that im not staying there because i prefer his parents over her as she thinks.
i had to speak to her about it as she refused to come up for me to do her hair (im a trained hairdresser, ive done her hair ever since i trained up) to his parents house because she didnt feel comfortable around his mum (who went out of her way to make them welcome the one time they visited months back, including making them dinner!) i fear its because they are a catholic family (we are not) and my folks dont 'do religion as its all nonsense' etc etc. this meant i had to get dp to take me last sunday to mums when we should have been out at house getting cleaning/painting etc done. i have already explained to mum i wouldnt be drving down on my own at this stage as im getting too tired and its very uncomfortable in the car for long periods and for reasons above.
she has made it clear that she doesnt want to get to know his parents and as ive said i think its because of their religious beliefs (early on in pg when mum asked if we would be moving in together now she fell out with me when i said yes thats our intention, told me that she wouldnt appreciate it if i raise the child a catholic!?!?! WTAF?? i have no time for bigotry and narrow-mindedness from anyone and still cant belive she said it being as her best and oldest friend is catholic as is my bff!
now, me and dp have been talking and have decided that the baby will be christened, im already freaking out about my folks, as i really think my mum will refuse to go, which will look really bad and i dont want this to interfere in my relationship with dp, i would never forgive my mum if it did. wtf do i do? sorry its so long and muddled, theres more i could say but ive rambled on long enough!